From a friend...

I got a response to my post from the day before yesterday from someone completely dear to my heart. It was sent to me versus posted, so it started a conversation. I was sharing that I was grateful I could be real and process my feelings while still trying to be respectful to my husband's feelings and I told her I was worried that blogging about our story would color him badly - because he is a good guy who made a big mistake, and I had my own role in that too.

She said something in response to my concern (remember how I wrote everyone has been so compassionate to my husband that knows the real story) that made me cry, and something she told me to really think about and tell my husband. It was:

"But ViolinMama, let me tell you... I know he is good because of you. Because of how you speak of him and love him. Let that sink in, because that should speak volumes for both of you."

I am speechless over both the generosity of that statement, and the truth in it. It is also such a helpful statement because when judgement or resentment want to creep in - it reminds me how good we ALL are, because God loves us. He forgives us every time we screw up. I am good because God is good. My husband is good because God loves him. I need to remember that when I let the hurt well up, and know that he, and myself, are more than our errors. 

The challenge is to keep going and make a change...commit to change. It is one thing to say "I can do better and I will do better." - it is another thing to live out the doing. That is where he is now, and me too.

Thank you, dear, wise, friend. I am good because of you too. All of you. I wish you a GOOD day today. 

Much love....humbly.